It’s a trying moment when you lose a loved. This would be a family member, relative, friend or anyone close to you. We can’t know how to react and how to hold the pressure. However, we have to go through the moment, otherwise if we don’t move on then it’s also a problem. But is not my area of concern today rather where we burry our people is the point.
So it has become so serious of late that when some is very sick especially with chronic disease, you advised to take them aback home before they die from the hospital. One of the reasons given is ‘transport of the dead.’ If this has not happened to you, you may have had a friend it did. It’s the order of the day for the poor.
Friends I have wondered for a long time if it’s a must to always bury people in the village in the name of ‘burial grounds’. I have seen families struggle to raise money to go through costs of taking people to burial grounds. Please don’t judge me, I guess you have certain attachments to your ancestral grounds but hear me out please. Some of us know where out burial grounds are, access is terrible and some even no shelter at these sites. It looks like we damp these so called loved ones back in the bushes of our villages.
Again friends I know you have your reasons about your burial grounds but if you have stood by a friend and traveled to that place for burial and wondered if that place ever existed on the google maps. What happens when you bury in the city cemetery? Just asking.
Sometimes I think we have adopted certain norms which may not be of much help with time. Yes, I respect the norms of our fore fathers and they had reasons for everything, some which did hold a lot of value but change has come. We can’t pretend anymore about certain things because the truth is they will not stay the same at all. So planning and adapting earlier will save us the stress of denial and the aftermath of change because it will come.
Please get me right, am not against your ancestral grounds but am thinking if all is not in your favour, burry somewhere else. You can start your own burial grounds but be careful about the growing development. Otherwise people work on the roads to your villages and houses. Do not wait for us to come and make us gospel about you. For sure we don’t want to gospel about it and don’t force us too.
Friends if you can and there is room too, bury in accessible places. We love these people and let’s keep them close even in death.
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